Why Are Kids Picky Eaters? While training to become a Registered Dietitian, I learned all the “tricks” to deal with a picky eater.
OR SO I THOUGHT!
I was basically under the impression that picky eating was the result of poor parenting. HAAA! This is so much more of a complicated subject than I was led to believe.
Well, I'm here to tell you that reality finally set in the day my son was born.
That's right!
I couldn't breastfeed like I planned to because all of the book knowledge (AND WIC experience) didn't help me with my own unique problem. My son had a small mouth, a high palate, and it just wasn't going to work!
So, I dealt with it in the only way I knew. I pumped with a hospital-grade pump for 8 months (because the regular $200 pump wasn't effective, and I started to lose my supply). Breastmilk is so incredibly superior to formula (not to mention that Nathan projectile vomited the formula up the first and only time we tried to give it to him right after he was born), that I was determined he was going to get it one way or another.
WHY ARE KIDS PICKY EATERS?
The good news is that I learned things along the way that are helping me to encourage my son to eat a more healthy and varied diet.
It started with pumping for breastmilk for eight months to what I am continuing to do today. And I'm still learning.
My son, Nathan, is now 20 years old, and was diagnosed with autism at 12, after years of symptoms pointing to it. One of the symptoms being Sensory Processing Disorder.
Sensory Processing Disorder affects many areas. However, one area in particular is sensitivity to food textures. It took me a long time to realize how much of my son's pickiness was related to food texture, because prior to having my son, I had never even heard of Sensory Processing Disorder.
So, one of the most effective ways I have learned to help my son with his food-related sensory processing deficits is to:
Keep Foods Separate
Serving foods separately (as opposed to multi-texture casseroles, for example) encourages my son to try new foods. Foods, that when served as part of a mix, he wouldn't be willing to try.
A little more history…
When Nathan started eating solid foods, I did all of the “correct” things I was taught to do in school. I made everything from scratch, gave him whole grains, hid vegetables (at least tried to), made cute faces on bagels. You name it, I tried it.
Why are kids picky eaters?
My first clue that Nathan had texture issues with food was when I fed him pureed brown rice when he was six months old.
When Nathan was 6 months old, I gave him pureed brown rice and he gagged/spit it out. I thought it was simply because he didn't like it. In fact, it was one of my favorite stories for years. Because let's face it, pureed brown rice doesn't sound very tasty!
Obviously, he was too young to tell me any different. So, I left it as just “he doesn't like brown rice.” However, I'm convinced it was actually a texture issue that caused the gagging/spitting up. He actually likes rice now. Even though he complains when I give him brown rice, he will eat it as long as it has cheese on it.
And then there was the “trying to hide the vegetables trick.”
That was a good one! He could see the vegetables and he could feel them in his mouth. No way was that going to work. I have found one solution to this problem, though: Homemade pureed broccoli, potato or mushroom soups. He will eat these.
It's such a cute idea to make faces on your pancakes and bagels. However, my son was not impressed. He wouldn't touch the pancakes or bagels if they were decorated. Why? Because technically that makes them a combination food. So, if he wasn't interested in eating a bagel, putting a face on it only made it worse!
NO COMBO FOODS (or very few anyway)
Nathan is now 20 years old, and there are still many things he will not accept, especially if foods are mixed together. For example, Nathan likes broccoli, he likes pasta with alfredo sauce, and he likes chicken. However, I cannot serve the three as one dish. In fact, I can only serve two of those three things on the same plate (broccoli and chicken), and the pasta in a bowl.
Okay, okay! I COULD put those foods together.
However, he would loudly and vehemently complain, and it would add conflict to our already fragile-at-times relationship. Yes, I try to be happy that he eats those three things, even if it does mean more work for me.
So, I have discovered that separating most foods before serving goes a long way towards appeasing his pickiness. And it definitely increases the variety of foods he will eat.
There are exceptions to this rule, by the way. For example, he will eat the delicious rice casserole I make on Christmas. And he will eat the original Garden Burger, which is a combo of rice, oats, onions, mushrooms.
If it's healthy, stick with what they like.
For example, Nathan wants to eat broccoli every night. He also likes brussels sprouts and carrots, but brussels sprouts are expensive, so we don't have those all of the time. He complains when I give him carrots, though I still give them to him once a week or so. However, since broccoli is so good for him, I don't mind giving him broccoli most days.
And I give him lots of broccoli for the first serving, because I've discovered he'll never ask for more. In contrast, when I give him pasta or meat, I give him less, because I know he'll ask for more if he's still hungry. This is a great way to prevent excess weight gain.
Don't give up on trying new things.
Especially if there is an entire food group missing from their diet. I have been told that you have to try something like 30 times before you know whether you like it. In theory, that sounds great, so you should try it. I'm sure it works.
Because if you have, and you've succeeded, I am SERIOUS when I say I want to hear from you. Because I am not perfect and I definitely don't know everything. And I know that I can learn something from you, the readers.
Make sure your child is taking a good multivitamin with Iron.
Giving my son a multivitamin reassures me that he's getting at least most of the stuff he isn't getting through his diet. I just keep focusing on explaining why he should be eating this and that. And when he asks why he has to take that big old pill, I explain to him it's because he's not eating enough whole fruits and vegetables. I'm hoping eventually the light will come on.
A good multivitamin with Iron (one that is dye free, if possible) will supplement your child's diet and should be safe for most children. Taking individual supplements (for example, iron only or zinc only) can throw other vitamin and mineral levels in the body off balance.
I do not recommend taking a specific nutrient supplement, without talking to your doctor first.
Here is an example of a typical day in Nathan's diet:
Breakfast
Cheese Quesadilla – Cheese melted on flour tortilla in microwave
100% Juice
Lunch
Chicken Leg/Garden Burger/Fish Sticks (Van De Camps are the best/highest quality I have found); taquitos or mini tacos
Fruit or avocado (Nathan likes plain avocado, and avocado is really good for you, including being high in magnesium).
Did I mention that my son doesn't eat the perfect diet?
Well, you have to pick your battles, and even as a dietitian, this can be a struggle. That's why multivitamins are so important.
BALANCE IS KEY
Whole grain (as much as I can get away with) pasta or rice with cheese
I have started using lentil pasta because Nathan likes it better than whole wheat pasta. Adding lentil pasta is an excellent nutritional choice on many levels. Lentils are a type of bean (legume). Thus, they have additional nutrients that grains, even whole grains, do not.
The only problem for us is that we have found only one brand that is acceptable. The other brands we have tried were just way too starchy. The brand we use is Lensi, and they sell it at Walmart. They have it at Amazon as well, though it's a lot more expensive than at Walmart. It is super high in protein, and of course, gluten-free. Plus, there are other bean pastas on the market today. The more variety in your child's diet, the better.
Fruit – white grapes, strawberries, blueberries, or watermelon
100% Juice Box -it's important to make sure you are buying 100% juice
Dinner
Chicken Leg/Garden Burger/Fish Sticks/Cod or Salmon
Pasta or rice with cheese or cheese sauce
Broccoli – Fresh only; Nathan won't eat frozen
Milk – Horizon Organic chocolate, vanilla, or strawberry–no artificial colors, lower in sugar than store brand chocolate milk
Snacks
Nonfat frozen yogurt or no sugar added ice cream for dessert
Plain tortilla or multi-Grain chips or Pretzels with string cheese – 9:00 snack -he's very consistent about this
Unfiltered Apple Juice or 100% orange juice (one 4-6 ounce serving each)
So, there it is. I would love to hear what you think, and would like it even more if you shared some of your ideas and things that have worked for you in dealing with your kid's pickiness!
Okay, so, let's get real. No matter how healthy we want to eat, no matter how much we want our kids to eat the perfect diet, no matter how much we want to avoid processed food, real life exhausts us sometimes.
Even the natural born chefs among us don't always feel like cooking.
And even the most frugal among us end up eating out eventually. Not only that, but like I mentioned in my last post on fast food, we don't just eat out for the food. We eat out to be social, to relax, to feel closer to our loved ones and our friends.
So, what do we do when we find ourselves in the “forbidden” restaurant? Sip on a lemon water? Pretend we're not hungry?
No! We choose healthy or we balance what we eat the rest of the day with what we eat at the restaurant.
Firstly, lets talk about balancing what we eat the rest of the day with what we eat at the restaurant.
When my family decides to eat out, we often eat at Sweet Tomato (Soupplantation). This is because (I'm laughing) Sweet Tomato is our son's favorite restaurant. Why? Because he likes the macaroni and cheese! I have to twist his arm to get him to eat a tablespoon of shredded carrots or a slice of cucumber with his macaroni and cheese, but he does drink apple juice (that is actually his preference).
Even at Sweet Tomato, the calories add up fast. I generally will eat some of the green salads and my favorite Broccoli Madness as well as a tad of Tuna Tarragon pasta salad. And the herb focaccia is fabulous! I like to try out the monthly soups, though there are a few classic favorites like cream of mushroom, chicken noodle that are my mainstays.
MyFitnessPal has most of the menu items from Sweet Tomato in their database, so I can estimate my calories eaten. Usually, when I eat there, it ends up being around 700 calories. This is over half of my calorie allowance when I don't work out.
When I eat at Sweet Tomato (or any other restaurant), I try to make sure I go to the gym and workout.
This increases my calorie allowance by an extra 300-500 calories. Also, at Sweet Tomato, the salads and soups have calorie and fat information next to the food. So you can estimate as you go, if you're into doing that.
So what else can we do when eat out to make sure we don't completely blow our diet?
Here are 10 healthy choices when eating out I have found to be helpful when eating out.
Check the nutrition facts information on the restaurant's website. Restaurants are required to make nutrition and allergy information available to customers. 99.9% of restaurants nowadays have websites that you can access anywhere, including your mobile device.
Choose the lower calorie option. For example, if you're at McDonalds, and you're itching for a hamburger, buy the smaller hamburger. You can also ask for no sauce. For example, with the Big Mac, you can save 90 calories by ordering it without the sauce.
If you must have the high calorie option, eat half at the restaurant and save the other half for later.
Order just the sandwich and a salad instead of French fries OR order just a salad.
Pay special attention to calories in salads, however. Salads sometimes have more calories than a large cheeseburger, depending on what's on them.
Use low calorie salad dressing or limit the amount of regular dressing you put on your salad.
Order the sandwich without cheese.
Drink water instead of soda.
Remember that just because it's healthy doesn't mean it's lower in calories. For example, the Green Burrito Bean, Rice and Cheese burrito has more calories than a Carl's Famous Star with Cheese (Green Burrito and Carl's Jr exist together at many restaurants, in case you didn't know that).
I have a picky son who absolutely loves Alfredo Sauce. But traditional Alfredo Sauce is through the roof with fat, saturated fat, and calories. Since he eats so much cheese, I've been concerned about his heart health. Children today are so much less active than they were when I was growing up, and Nathan is no exception. So, I decided to find a reduced fat Alfredo Sauce to try. (Post may contain affiliate links).
I found a recipe for reduced fat Alfredo Sauce online a few months ago.
We tweaked it a bit. It was a hit! In fact, shortly after trying this recipe, I bought regular Alfredo Sauce at the deli of our local grocery store. If you can believe it, Nathan likes my reduced fat version better. So we make it for him quite frequently.
One thing many people don't realize about cheese is that dry Italian cheese has richer flavor, and weighs less by bulk. So a 3/4 cup serving of Romano Pecorino cheese has less calories and fat than 3/4 cup of cheddar cheese, for example. This is one reason why this recipe was actually pretty easy to create.
Although Alfredo sauce is traditionally served with Fettucine, you can add this sauce to different types of pasta to add variety. And it will all taste delicious!
We serve our reduced fat Alfredo sauce with Ravioli, whole grain pasta, and legume pasta. It also tastes delicious on vegetables, such as broccoli, and with chicken and beef. We're still trying to get Nathan used to the idea of eating broccoli, chicken and pasta Alfredo together as one dish. However, he's not going for it–yet.
The good news is that he will eat chicken and broccoli on the side as long as the pasta is in a separate bowl.
I hope you enjoy this recipe as much as Nathan does. Oh, for comparison.
Delicious, aromatic, and easy. This reduced fat version passes the kid test. You'll be able to serve it with your favorite pasta, meats, and vegetables.
Prep Time20 minutesmins
Cook Time10 minutesmins
Total Time30 minutesmins
Servings: 4Servings
Calories: 358kcal
Author: Deborah Hanyon, MPH, RDN, ACE-CHC
Ingredients
1tbspButter
1tspminced garlic
1tbspall purpose flouror gluten-free flour of choice
1cup2% reduced fat milk
2 tbspcream cheesesoftened
1/2tsplemon zestgrated, fresh
1tbspparsleyfresh, chopped
3/4cupromano pecorinoor other favorite italian cheese
1dashwhite pepperoptional
1/4tspsaltmay use up to 1/2 tsp
8ozwhole grain pastaor other favorite pasta
Instructions
Melt Butter in saucepan
add garlic and lemon zest; cook until soft, about 1 minute
add in flour, stir
add milk, whisk together until smooth; cook, stirring constantly, at medium temp until thickened and bubbly, about 3 minutes
add cream cheese and romano pecorino cheese;
Note that cream cheese will be difficult to completely mix into the milk; if will taste good even if you see little pieces. However, if you want to combine it until it's creamy, you can use an immersion blender.
In 2016, The United Nations declared Pulses as Superfoods. Four years later, they are still as healthy as ever. And they are also delicious, inexpensive, and easy to cook with.
If you're wondering what a pulse is, and you are also wondering what constitutes a “superfood,” then you've come to the right place.
First of all, a definition. Pulses are the edible seeds of plants in the legume family.
For example,
lentils
green peas
split peas
chickpeas (garbanzos)
Are all pulses.
Also, dried beans including
kidney beans
pintos
and black beans
Are pulses as well.
To put it simply, pulses are legumes (beans and peas), and they are highly nutritious.
Pulses as Superfoods
Why are pulses classified as superfoods? There are at least 10 reasons:
High in Protein, Folate, Iron, Magnesium, and B vitamins
High in Fiber
Easy to Cook With
Promote Sustainable Agriculture
Decrease Greenhouse Gases
Increase Soil Health
Require Less Water than Other Crops
Help with Weight Management
Reduce Cardiovascular Disease and Cancer Risk
Help to Increase Food Security
And pulses are delicious when prepared correctly. Because of their mild taste, they can be integrated into many dishes, even desserts.
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Of all of the superfoods, blueberries are one of my favorites. And living in Oregon, we sure do get plenty of them. But what exactly makes blueberries superfoods? And what are some of the ways you can eat them?
Here are at least 5 reasons blueberries are superfoods.
Interesting facts about blueberries:
More species of blueberries exist in North America than in any other continent in the world.
Blueberries have the highest antioxidant capacity of any of the popular fruits and vegetables.
Specifically, blueberries are rich in the phytonutrients known as anthocyanins.
Antioxidants are just what they say they are: “anti”, meaning they work against, “oxidation.”
Oxidation is a process that results in the breakdown of cells. For example, the reason bananas, apples, and potatoes become brown when open to the air is because of oxidation.
Thus, antioxidants prevent cell damage in the body, an example of which is cancer.
Blueberries are an excellent way to reduce your risk of cancer and other age-related diseases.
Blueberries are low in calories. One cup only contains about 80 calories.
These tasty fruits are a good source of fiber, providing 4 grams per serving.
They are also high in vitamin C and a good source of potassium.
As with all fruit, blueberries are high in water (85%). Thus, blueberries hydrate your body naturally.
Blueberries taste delicious and make many other foods more tasty. For example, add some blueberries to your pancake or waffle batter the next time you're fixing breakfast. Or just add the blueberries on top.
Add blueberries to your favorite smoothie in the morning. You can freeze blueberries to increase their shelf life. This is great in the summer because the coldness of frozen berries makes the smoothie more refreshing on a hot summer day.
Add them to your favorite cereal or to plain yogurt to spruce them up AND make them more nutritious.
This is at least 5 Reasons why blueberries are superfoods. Can you think of any more reasons?
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